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Start With What Actually Changed Erin knew exactly what to do after spending too much money. She had done it before. First, open the credit card app and stare at the number until it becomes a moral judgment. Then mentally cancel every enjoyable thing she...

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Knowing Better Isn’t Always the Missing Skill There is a particularly maddening kind of spending where you don’t realize what happened until later. And then there is the kind where you know exactly what is happening while you’re doing it. Let’s call her Erin. Erin...

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I Have a Problem Spending Money: How to Stop Spending Without Restricting Yourself Maya did what any responsible adult having a minor financial crisis at 7:42 on a Monday morning would do. She Googled it. “How to stop spending money.” The internet was delighted to...

A woman sitting alone with a glass of wite looking concerned. She's asking if money will make her happy.

Approximate read time: 9 minutes Most of us have some version of this story running in the background of our lives. When I lose the weight, I’ll feel better. I can finally relax once I get that promotion. When I find the relationship, I’ll feel...

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Approximate read time: 10 minutes Most of us have played this game before. What would you do if you won the lottery? The answers usually come quickly. Pay off debt. Buy the house. Take the trip. Help your family. Quit your job. Sleep for a...

A woman sitting at her kitchen table looking at a bank statement with laptop open in front of her. She looks worried. She can't stop thinking about money.

Can’t stop thinking about money There’s a very specific kind of tired that comes from thinking about money all day. I hear people tell me the pain of:“I’m not doing anything about it.”“I can’t stick to a plan.” Just… thinking. You check your account.You run...

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Ever found yourself swearing off spending… while simultaneously clicking “Add to Cart”?Or wondering where your money went, even though you’re sure you haven’t bought anything major?You’re not alone. And you’re not broken, lazy, or bad with money. But you might be stuck in an overspending...

A woman sitting on a brown couch holding her phone in one hand, looking at the phone, but her other hand is in her hair like she's worried. She has laundry in her lap. How to manage your money when you're burned out.

What to Do When Financial Tasks Feel Impossible (and Why You’re Not Failing) If you’ve ever said something like: “We seriously don’t even have five minutes to talk about money.” “Every minute of my day is already spoken for, and then things keep happening.” “We’ve...

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“Make a budget and stick to it” is one of the most common financial tips out there. Budgets are also one of the most misunderstood, misused, and misapplied tools in personal finance. If you’ve ever felt like budgeting should work but doesn’t (like you’re doing...

A woman laying on the floor with her face in her hands. Shes surrounded by shopping bags and receipts, she looks financially overwhelmed

You’re Not Lazy. You’re Overloaded. It’s November. The lights are twinkling, your inbox is exploding, the kids need costumes and cookies, and someone just brought up travel plans. Again. You know your finances need attention,but every time you open a spreadsheet or log into your...

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Advice from a trauma-informed, holistic financial coach Read time: ~7 minutes “I’ve got to spend less this holiday season.”Sound familiar? The holidays bring joy… and overwhelm. One moment you’re sipping cider, the next you’re wondering how you already spent $800 and feeling the dread...

A washed out road as a metaphor for how financial infidelity undermines connection and communication

What is Financial Infidelity? Financial infidelity (or financial cheating) simply means you or your partner is hiding something about finances.  This can look like: hiding debt, hiding a bank account, a secret credit card, making financial decisions without your partner, or hiding or misrepresenting income...

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Why couples fight about money and what to do about it Why Do Couples Keep Fighting About Money? Even couples who love each other deeply and communicate well in most areas can find themselves stuck in the same argument,again and again,when it comes to money....

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Financial Communication for Couples You’re great at communicating in your relationship… Until it comes to money. Then, it’s silence. Or stress. Or that same exhausting fight that never gets resolved. This isn’t because you’re bad with money. It’s not because you’re emotionally immature. It’s because...

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Revenge savings The best payback is peace of mind and a fat savings account You ever look at your bank account and think, damn, I wish I could return the last six months of choices? Maybe it was the shopping sprees that felt like freedom…...